The season every year is apon us, no it’s not Easter nor is it Christmas. It’s baby season, every year we flick through our Facebook home page, and to welcome us are pregnancy announcements. Numerous amount of scan pictures plague our screens, don’t get me wrong I don’t mind at all. I love seeing little babies being brought into this world, it warms my heart. But at the same it makes my womb tingle, only a little. I found that once one couple has announced ten more follow. The gender reveals, is it “pink or blue” with the celebratory confetti in the child’s gender colour.
Making the decision to start a family can be a big step, many women/teenage girls think having a baby looks easy. But without the right help and support it can become daunting. There are many complications evolved during pregnancy that some women fail to think of or are not informed enough.
- Weight management
- Eptopic pregnancy
- Pre aclampsia
- Eating disorders
- Mental health
- Genetic disorder (hereditary)
- Cot death
- Group B Strep
- Premature births
What I do not comprehend is the fact that you are expected to wait till 12 weeks before you tell anyone your pregnant. I can understand it is a weary time, as a lot can go wrong in the first 12 weeks. But seen as you have 9 months of pregnancy, anything can go wrong. From ectopic pregnancy’s, miscarriages, reduced movements, pre-eclampsia and still births. Even at your late stages of pregnancy you and your baby are not out of the woods, so why are we expected not to share our joy with the rest of the world.
I was watching Vlogs on YouTube this week, with women pouring their soul to tell us their unfortunate loss of a child that never got to grace the outside world. Most of these women Were In their third trimester, some days before their due date. I understand it can spare heart-ache to try and explain to others why their beautiful baby didn’t make it. But why should we have to hide our pain, we cannot let this be a taboo subject. Women and men need support during their grief. It is a magical experience bearing a unborn child, it can be tough along the way but it’s worth it. Whether you bear your child for a few weeks or 9 months, you are a mother, you are a father, you are entitled to say and do as you please.
I asked a close source for more insight into the development over the years within the pregnancy and birthing sector. In the 1960’s most women didn’t have as many antenatal appointments the general term for that decade became “just get on with it”. In this decade many women didn’t have much access to ultrasound scans, you either had no to little insight on what your baby was doing inside your womb. Most common situations where the women was in labour and taken to the delivery room, partners or husband where not permitted to enter. So you had to go through labour on your own with just the midwifes to help and guide you.
Not to mention the added stress of having children out of wedlock, or having a multicultural family (mixed families). Once the women has birthed her child she would commonly stay in the recovery room for up to ten days, you were pushed into breastfeeding as bottle feeding wasn’t even an option. After you had been discharged the only help you would receive would be two home checks. Sensitivity towards new mothers wouldn’t be a common practice, bluntness would be bound to their personality. Since in that era where C-sections would be unheard of, we have come along way in the midwifery practice.
We now have access to 3D/4D scanning, gender scans, dating scans, weight scans we have scans up the wazzzoo. We have more resources to prevent and catch early signs of complications, we are more prepared and informed than the last century. With our medical technology advancing every decade, we are lucky to have what we have. We are lucky that we can have two people in the room with us, we are fortunate enough to experience a lot more than our mothers, and their mothers before them. But yet we still have a long way in front of us.